Meaning: a woman can tell her devoted boyfriend of a year that since she doesn’t yet have a ring, she’s going to see other people. Believe me, I understand the emotion behind Circular Dating.
All you have to do is read this blog to know that I am intimately familiar with the frustrations and fears of women.
If you think that he should marry you because you’ve been together for three months and you love him, then he should have also proposed to about a dozen women he dated for three months before you. I should be allowed to CD ‘til my wedding day because I don’t want just “a boyfriend”.
No one is asserting that you should be content to be merely a girlfriend forever.
And if you think you’re restricting your options by being faithful, then, by all means, circular date.Circular dating is about Free Therapy and practicing Rori Raye Tools. Be proactive, date lots of people, have fun, don’t get too excited about a promising prospect – we’re all on the same page so far.Where this concept of Circular Dating breaks down for me, however – the reason I wanted to guest blog on her website – is this idea: The concept of circular dating (CDing) is ostensibly supposed to last . Yes, there’s something highly discordant about this principle, and I haven’t been able to get it out of my head for nearly a week.My argument against circular dating centers around only one simple premise: If you have a boyfriend who is consistent and kind and also wants to be married one day, and you tell him, in a moment of insecurity, that you can’t stand waiting any longer – “it’s been seven months and we’re not engaged, so I’m going to start seeing other men” – you’re essentially taking a dagger to the heart of your relationship.And if you have a boyfriend who isn’t consistent, isn’t kind, and never wants to be married, there’s no need to “circular date”. No one wants to waste time on a dead-end relationship. And try though I might, I can’t think of too many confident men who feel that their exclusive girlfriend has a right to date other men after 6 months, 12 months or 18 months, merely because she’s insecure that he might not marry her. I tried, in vain, to reiterate my point of view – which is that I’m offering a constructive, not destructive, criticism of circular dating. To figure out, over the course of time, if he wants to spend the next 35 years with you. You might have a strong chemistry and a great feeling about a guy, but lifetime relationships take years to forge, not months.